Kristin & Cole

Our Story

Seemingly enough the tim hortons 'curse' got us. I work at the local tim hortons and the deal with alot of the long time girls there is they have met their husbands at tims. 5 years go, cole used to come threw the drive threw in his loud desiel truck and it was so frustrating trying to hear is order and even the order behind him. I calle him out one day (jokingly). I asked him what are you gonna do if I forget your order (large regular) and give you the wrong coffee cause I can't hear you over your truck. We had a giggle. The next day and from there on after he always come inside. We ended up striking small talk and became really good friends, also figuring out we met each other when we were younger. We ended up creating a cool bond and friendship over our separations. I (8 months prior) finally left a 10 year very abusive and addiction fueled relationship. Got clean and sober and left the guy. One of the most difficult things someone can go threw, im very happy I had the support of my family amd my co workers/bosses. He was in the process of leaving his situation as it was becoming toxic for his kids. Sometimes someone just needs support and someone to talk to. After a year and a half, it seemingly ended up being that we were together every time either of us didnt have our kids with us amd just naturally something had formed. It was blissful, it was heaven, we introduced our kids eventually and they bonded instantly. It was truly memt to be. Not realizing tho that neither of us had let out wounds from the pervious relationship heal. About a year ago, we separated for just under 6 months. We thought we were putting our kids first cause we didnt want to be toxic for them. My son who was 13 at the time was hiding it very well but was actually devastated. He didnt have a good relationship with his father and had not seen him in over a year at that point, and had a great bond with Cole. After about a month, Cole messaged me just checking in and asking how to do groceries for the boys. He came to realize he was spending way to much and didnt really know how to budget for groceries. Of course because I came to love his 2 boys as my own and wanted the best for them, I helped. It ended up being that every friday after work we would meet at freshco and do our shopping together. As we were both trying to live life on our own, it ended up being that we just couldn't stay away from each other. Around March last year as of course I ended up not being able to hide my feelings I decided it was best that I separate my self fully from him cause I was having a hard time not loving him but not being able to move on. I explained this to him and he hid his emotions very well and respected my wishes. That following may, on mother's day to be precise, I received a text from him, first time since March. He wished me a wonderful mother's day and all the happiness In the world. Outta left field he said im in carleton place, the kids are at a birthday party come have coffee with me id love to see you. I was over static. Of course I wanted to see this man, even tho it was my choice to not communicate, I had missed our conversations, everything. I grabbed coffee and met with him. It was a lil awkward at first, I could tell he had something on his mind but wasn't saying anything, so I called him out. He then proceeded to confess his love for me, telling me how much he missed me, the kids missed me, he was an idiot for letting me and my son go. He poured his heart out to me (which was not like him, he was raised men keep feelings to themselves). He said he was going to marry me (even tho we both agreed years prior to never marry, just live as a blended family). The deal was sealed, we decided to take it slow. We moved back in together, the kids were happy, we were happy. We are both horror nuts. I had been waiting since Christmas for the love of my life to hand me a ring and say marry me. I was done waiting. I found a couple set of rings that suited both of us and after a crazy day with the kids, school, homework, hockey arena dinner and everything in between, friday February 13th after the kids went to bed, we went out for a smoke before turning our selves in I read a lil notes speech on My phone and I didnt even get to finish and he interrupted and said im so sorry I didnt get around to this earlier of course ill marry you!!! And here we are.

Let me note that in all this time it wasn't blissful. We both dealth with alot of loss with loved ones in the middle of all of this. I lost 2 of my best friends and we watched his mother slowly passaway with cancer. Those times definitely strained us, not knowing how to help each other and grieving can be difficult for everyone, but we stayed strong, communicated, amd supported each other.

My grandmother alwasy told me growing up dont marry the person you just have fun with, marry the person who you can also go threw hard times with. We have both finally found our person, and our families couldn't be happier.